Living with depression and anxiety for 8 years I’ve dealt with advice and suggestions from people who think they know better. You know the type I mean;
“You need to get out more”
“You just need to snap out of it and decide to be happy”
“Try and see the positives instead of the negatives”
“You need more exercise, that will make you feel better”
Since developing CFS and Fibro I’ve noticed these dreaded suggestions more and they frustrate me enormously, I don’t mind advice on how to manage my pain or deal with my fatigue but when it comes from people who have no idea what it’s like to live with my conditions, who think they know better then it offends me.
“Just go to bed earlier at night, then you won’t be so tired”
“Maybe you need to stop taking all those tablets”
“You just need to change your mindset, it’s all in your head”
“Try meditating and thinking your pain away”
It’s never ending. Recently I’ve heard a lot from people who make judgements about the medication I’m taking and say I should come off it because it’s making me worse. People who say I’m filling my body with pills and tell me I’d be better off without them. It’s frustrating because without the medication, I wouldn’t be able to get out of bed. People seem to think I enjoy shoving pills down my throat, and that I enjoy all the side effects.
I don’t take medication because I want to, I’ve tried coming off it all and it wasn’t helpful. People don’t understand why I’m taking pills when it’s all in my head but my pain is not in my head; I wish it was because then I could deal with it. Instead it’s physical and I can’t just change my mindset and get rid of it, I have to manage it with medication and that medication allows me to get up and go out, it allows me to do the small things I enjoy.
But people always think they know better and I believe everyone is entitled to their own opinion but I am offended when they think their opinion and judgement is more valid than my own.